Love or Obsession

Sometimes I think we fans are so selfish, we just want our Star to do what we want, we want him/her to take the role we would like to see them in, if we have loved them paired with someone we want only them to be paired  opposite each other always, we don't want them to be paired with anyone else and at times we become so obsessed that we want them to be  real life couples too.
I know many of my friends here wont agree with me at all. But does being a fan mean being obsessed or bossy? Does being a star, and having a  fan following mean not having their say in what they want, how they want to shape their career, with whom they want to act. I know here I am going to get an argument that fans are the ones who make an actor a Star, so they got to fullfill our wishes or do what we want or love them to do, but what we are forgetting here is that an actor, a star is a human being too he has his own set of rules, his own expectations and his own way to live.
Its said na "Loving someone doesnot mean controlling his/her life... Its just loving the one the way he/she is and believing in him/her that whatever that person is doing, is the right thing to do.
If u want him just to be the way you want its not love, its obsession."

Same thing applies here, if we love our Stars we got to let go his/her show and believe in him/her that he/she is going to come up with Something that is better for them, new for us.. Like here we NBT fans cann't be selfish and keep on asking Kunal and Aakanksha just to be paired opposite each other only. We got to let go of NBT and hope to see them soon onscreen whether they are paired opposite each other or anyone else.
I know after this write up I might be categorised into BTPs ( Bad Taste People), but  we need to realise that for something better to come we have to let old things go.
The thing that triggered this thought in my mind was everyone's reaction (including mine) on the latest article by telly times on Kunal "Travel Means Lot Learning Experience". 
We want him back onscreen soon so we are bugging him every now and then with our messages and tweets to return soon. But in all this we forgot that travelling is his passion, he just loves travelling . So how can we fans, how can 'I' be so selfish that just because I want that wonderfull half an hour of my day back, I want him to end his tour soon, stop doing what he loves and get back to work. (I mean I absolutely hate it when someone stops me from doing what i love or enjoy doing). Everyone of us deserves a "me" time and so does him.
And  as far as  return of Kunal onscreen is concerned, after reading the latest telly times article I have no hope of seeing him anytime soon (not for 3mnths atleast) but then just because we are missing him terribly that doesnt mean that he should not do what he actually loves or not follow his passion.
So now am not gonna whine about why isn't he returning back or why is he taking so long break. M just gonna wait for him to return onscreen with some good project that can do justice to his talent. Letting him enjoy his well deserved vacation  and some 'me' time. [and  just bothering him 'a little' by messaging him to read these immature writings of mine ;-) ]

P.S- please don't kll me after reading this... its just an honest thought of mine. I know many of you just would not agree with this. but again i guess atleast I can express myself in my blog atleast